ADMIRATION DEFINITION:A feeling of warm approval and appreciation PHYSICAL SIGNALS AND BEHAVIORS: A smile that reaches the eyes (which are glossy and bright) Prolonged eye contact Eyebrows that flash up and hold Head tilting slightly to the side Leaning forward Nodding slightly while grinning A flush visible in the cheeks Reaching out to the one who is admired Offering a compliment Lowering the head briefly An enthusiastic, warm greeting Inviting another into one’s personal space Lightly shaking one’s head and smiling upon thinking of the other person Active listening (nodding while the other speaks) Mirroring the body language of the one admired Laying a hand on the back or shoulder of the other Clasping hands behind the back Shifting weight to lean toward the one admired Open body posture (facing toward another, a welcoming stance) Relaxed arms A warm squeeze at the end of a handshake Asking questions and requesting opinions Asking for more detail, allowing the other more air time Being agreeable Adjusting clothing (straightening, smoothing) to make a good impression Laughing more often Caretaking:Can I get you something, a drink? Offering praise:You did great up there, a natural speaker! A warm tone of voice Friendliness Being more talkative than normal Not interrupting Going out of one’s way (staying late, making time for another during busy periods, etc.) Respecting the time of the one admired:You have lots of people to see so I’ll let you go. Being more understanding and forgiving if a conversation or meeting is rushed INTERNAL SENSATIONS: The heart rate picking up slightly Stomach flutters Body heat rising Overall looseness in the muscles MENTAL RESPONSES: Lending more weight to the opinions and actions of the one admired Being open-minded and trusting A desire to learn from or be privy to personal details or opinions A feeling of well-being while in the presence of the admired Feeling gratitude for the opportunity to spend time together ACUTE OR LONG-TERM RESPONSES FOR THIS EMOTION: Clapping, cheering, fist pumping A handshake using both hands Making favorable comparisons:I hope one day I’m in your positionorWow, you’re just so good at that. Maybe if I stick close enough I’ll pick up your skill! Inviting closeness:I’d love to have you over for dinner sometime. Prioritizing the other person and making time for them Bringing the one admired up in conversation with others and singing their praises SIGNS THAT THIS EMOTION IS BEING SUPPRESSED: Breaking eye contact to look away briefly Busying oneself so one isn’t caught staring Waiting at the fringe of a group but not moving toward the subject to engage Taking deeper breaths to try and slow one’s heartbeat Listening in to a conversation with the one admired but not directly conversing with them Hesitating before jumping into the conversation or introducing oneself MAY ESCALATE TO:Eagerness,Adoration,Inspired,Envy MAY DE-ESCALATE TO:Valued,Pleased,Curiosity,Satisfaction ASSOCIATED POWER VERBS: Adore, applaud, aspire, bestow brag, build up, clap, commend congratulate, envy, flatter, gaze greet, honor, imitate, invite linger, marvel, praise, profess recognize, recommend, respect, salute thank, vouch, watch, welcome WRITER’S TIP:If your character wants to give up, give them a reason to go on. What core beliefs do they hold that they will go to the mat to defend? What injustices or atrocities are just too morally painful to bear?